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Attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, secure

Why do some relationships leave you stuck on «why hasn't he replied?» while in others you feel suffocated and want distance? Your attachment style, the way you learned to connect very early on, explains a lot, and it isn't fixed.

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What an attachment style is

It's the «internal model» you bring to intimacy: how easily you trust, what you do when you fear rejection, how you react to distance. It forms early but keeps shaping adult relationships.

Anxious, avoidant, secure

In anxious attachment you live with a fear of abandonment and seek constant reassurance. In avoidant, closeness feels suffocating and you keep your distance. In secure, you can be close without losing yourself. Most of us are a mix that shifts from one relationship to another.

Can your attachment style change?

Yes. Through understanding and new, corrective relational experiences, many people move toward a more secure way of connecting, so-called «earned secure attachment». The therapeutic relationship is itself one such space.

What to expect

50-minute sessions, online or in person in Thessaloniki, in Greek or English. You can come on your own or as a couple.

Self-check

Take the related test

Anonymous and in 2–3 minutes, for a first picture of what's going on. You can bring the result to your session.

The tests are informational and are not a diagnosis.

FAQ

Good to know

How do I know my attachment style?
There are signs, but you're not a «label». In therapy we look at how you actually connect, in your own relationships, not a quiz.
Do anxious and avoidant work together?
It's a very common, exhausting pairing. By understanding what triggers each of you, you can break the «pursue and withdraw» cycle.
Is it my parents' fault?
We're not looking for someone to blame. We understand where you learned to connect, precisely so you can choose differently today.
Can I work on it online?
Yes, just as effectively, individually or as a couple.
Attachment Styles | Anxious & Avoidant Attachment | thestherapy